Wednesday, December 1, 2010

The next 25

I think I have mentioned a time or two or twenty that holidays have not been the easiest since we lost Hadley.

Thanksgiving was no exception.

Of course I spent plenty of time on Thanksgiving in gratitude for all that I have, I marveled at Sawyer's chunky baby-ness and cemented the memory of three year-old voices saying Happy Thanksgiving into my Mommy brain and took a step back to look at my amazing Ashlyn.

But I also was crabby and bitter and bit my husband's head off one time too many.

For the first hour or two of the day I was trying to figure out what my problem was and then I remembered what I seem to forget EVERY SINGLE holiday.

I can't do them right anymore.

Once we get to wherever we are going I get distracted and do okay but I can not seem to get good at the getting ready and trying to make the day normal and all of that other business.  I spend all of my time trying not to think about the fact that this is not the way Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter, Mother's Day, Father's Day, the list goes on and on, is supposed to be.

On the way to my parents for Thanksgiving I told Mark that we need to do something different from now on and, like the husband who knows me like he does, he did not say anything to disagree but just let me continue blabbing on until I came to the conclusion myself that going somewhere different is not going to do a single bit of good because we could go to the moon but we will still be without our daughter.

And you can't get good at living without one of your children.   You can just hope that with time the bitterness will slowly fade and the person you once were will surface here and there.

My long holiday rant was all to say that going through the motions of the holidays is not something you look forward to once you are a loss mom and that is why Tina of Living Without Sofia and Ellie is a GENIUS.  Last year, Tina started 25 days of Giveaways for mom's who have lost a child and the response was overwhelming so she is doing it again this year.

For each day of December a different loss mom will be hosting a giveaway on her blog.  I believe that, aside from the support of all of these great women, this is the only other perk of my lifetime membership into the I-have-lost-a-child club.

So Tina has given us all something to look forward to each of the next 25 days and yours truly gets to host day 23.  I'm SO excited to do it but do not have a creative bone in my body to make something so am still wracking my brain for something to give away (if you have any ideas or create something of your own that you think would be a good idea PLEASE let me know).

Finally, to end my long, rambling post, if you are a loss mom visit Living Without Sofia and Ellie today to enter the first day of giveaways.

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